Before we get into the nitty gritty it’s really important to zoom out and get clarity on the context of what contributes to the majority of relationship challenges. Our relationships exist within the dynamic of so many other cultural and socioeconomic factors that need to be considered and acknowledged.

Other fundamentals we cover here include

• Clarifying your relationship vision.
• A model for healthy interdependent relating.
• Understanding and appreciating the different phases of relationship.
• The basic physiology of relating.

The not so secret sauce. I’ll guide you through my Flow of Communication Model and provide you with distinctions and powerful practices to enhance your ability to:

- communicate effectively,

- come to a place of mutual understanding more swiftly,

- repair after conflict,

- navigate difficult conversations with more grace. 

We learn to relate based on what was modelled for us. We form beliefs about ourselves, other people and the world that make up our “relationship paradigm” which becomes the lens we view our relationship (and our partner through). Here we look at what contributed to our current unconscious “lens of perception” and how we go about creating a more aligned one. We also dive into inner child work as a way of cultivating a deeper level of safety within ourselves.

Nearly all relational conflict and disconnect stems from a perceived lack of safety. We can’t learn or access true compassion if we don’t feel safe aka have a regulated nervous system. Here we look at what contributes to regulation, how we can self-regulate and how we can support our partner to do the same. We also explore what healthy co-regulation looks like.

Our attachment systems are an extremely powerful part of our biology that dramatically impact our ability to communicate, connect and relate. A deeper understanding of our own and our partners' attachment styles combined with tools and practices to create safety in the body and secure attachment is a resource that will not only serve your relationship, but also serve your parenting journey in a huge way.

There are three big barriers to connection and intimacy that can fly under the radar and if not addressed will silently block more depth from being experienced or a full reconnection happening after conflict. These are: Guilt / shame, resentment and values projection. In this module we dive into how to work with these through forgiveness and values awareness and alignment.

One of the most powerful things we can do for our relationship is broaden our definition and understanding of intimacy. This extends beyond, but definitely includes, sexual intimacy. Here we explore concepts and practical approaches to deepening the level of intimacy we get to experience.

In the fast paced and often stress-riddled lifestyles we can slip into, bringing Ceremony and Ritual into your relationship in a way that feels good for you as a couple will serve as a powerful anchor. It helps to slow down, to cultivate presence and to deepen connection. 

Vitality is the ultimate currency. If we’re depleted it’s harder to be open and connect. It’s harder to have compassion and tolerance. The most important pillar when it comes to regulating our nervous system (and therefore enhanicng our vitality) is our breath.

There are unique physiological and logistical changes that occur when we make this transition that needs to be acknowledged and addressed in order to create a thriving culture inside your relationship. Even if you’ve been parents for a while - if this wasn’t acknowledged and worked with at the time, it’s still very important to address.